Structure in the Home
Pictured Above: Tabitha and Tim Trieber enjoying the fall pumpkin patch over 20 years ago!
Desiring to get ahead of the game, I have already decorated our house for the fall season. I thrive on making our home a special place and an oasis for my family. Potpourri is simmering on the stove and a combination of white and orange lights are intertwined with garland over the windows, doors, fireplace and banister. Fall decorations are everywhere at the Trieber house.
Clear out clutter. Now that the children are in school, go through the house and de-clutter!Homes are ( or should be) back on a schedule after the lazy, long days of summer. Structure is so vitally important to a family. Dear lady, you are the one responsible for guiding the home. So much depends on you! Children need a schedule and a home of order. This is designed by our Lord in Scripture when He instructs us to “do all things decently and in order.” (I Corinthians 14:40) A home filled with chaos will likely create a dysfunctional family. Homes in America are out of control! The television, internet, cell phones, Ipods and other wonderful devices are taking the place of family fun and having a downright good time together. Please, don’t let this happen to your family! I trust that the following suggestions might be helpful to you:
- Have your “control center” or, in other words, your calendar posted where the whole family can see what is going on and when.
- Have a meal planner. Take a few minutes each week to plan the menu for the next week. Nutrition is of utmost importance to the health of our children. Childhood diseases are at an all time high in America. McDonald’s just won’t cut it! PLEASE spend time in the kitchen!
- Have a place for everything, and put everything in its place.
- Take time to make your home cozy, warm and inviting. Michael’s, Target, T.J. Maxx and Big Lots all have wonderful fall decorations available. Start with a few, and add to them each year.
- Have a place in your home where you meet with the Lord on a daily basis. Your Bible, prayer lists and study guides should be included in this special place. Please take time to meet with the Lord. Our husbands, children, church and country are so desperately in need of our prayers.
- Quiet down your house early in the evening and create an atmosphere conducive to a good night’s sleep. Sleep is so important to the health of your family.
- Plan special quiet times with each child during the day, and don’t forget number one—your husband! Husbands and wives need time at the end of each day to discuss the day’s happenings and reconnect with each other. It is so easy to put the children first, but please don’t do so at the expense of your relationship with your spouse!
- Encourage your husband in family devotions, and create a godly atmosphere in the home. A cozy, warm house without spirituality will not help when the storms of life are crashing upon you.
- Never give up! Every new month, each new week, and a brand new day tomorrow grants each one of us a chance to try again.
If you feel as though you have tried and failed, please remember my favorite cliché: “Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it!”
Until next month,