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Top 20 “Musts”

written by on the topic of Ladies Only on October, 2008

Welcome to the month of October! School is in full swing, Pastor’s Conference is now history, and life should be back to your normal routine and on schedule. If you are not living by a schedule, make one today and “stick to it!”

One of the greatest opportunities given me this semester is to teach a class on “The Home” with my husband, Bro. Trieber, at Golden State Baptist College. We are privileged to have between 140 and 150 students in this class. Needless to say, we have a great time! Most enjoyable for me is the question-and-answer time allotted at the end of each class hour. College students have serious and sincere concerns regarding marriage and the home. As I glance over the classroom, I do not just see a “sea of faces.” Instead, I see our future. The Christian leaders of tomorrow are sitting in classrooms today.  One of my utmost concerns as a wife, mother, nana and pastor’s wife is the responsibility I have to train these wonderful young ladies to be godly wives and mothers. Our nation is in a world of hurt for women to take seriously these important roles given to us by God. As I study Scripture, especially in Proverbs, Ephesians and Titus, I find quite a list responsibilities I must accept in order to fulfill my role of “wife” to my husband. The following is an excerpt from my prayer journal; it is my prayer that my list will inspire you to do the same for your husband. My list of “musts” is as follows:

  1. I must help him.
  2. I must submit to him. (Ouch! I said it!)
  3. I must obey him.
  4. I must be desirable to him. (Take a good look in the mirror.)
  5. I must love him.
  6. I must be virtuous.
  7. I must do him good.
  8. I must be frugal.
  9. I must be balanced.
  10. I must control my tongue.
  11. I must be a keeper at home.
  12. I must have children that respect me.
  13. I must fear the Lord.
  14. I must guide my home in the direction my husband has set.
  15. I must maintain a good testimony.
  16. I must keep his confidence.
  17. I must be discreet.
  18. I must be chaste.
  19. I must be domestic.
  20. I must be loving and affectionate. (Though this is last, it is not least!)

This is my list of “top twenty musts.” Let me encourage you to create one of your own as you study the Scriptures. Remember that each one of us is an example for others to follow and “may all who come behind us find us faithful.”

Until November,

Mrs. T

About the Author

Cindie Trieber has served the people of our ministry for more than three decades as the Pastor’s Wife. She teaches in the college and is a godly mother and “Nana." She recently completed her first book entitled With All My Heart.

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